is she a Mother or child?

I was floored to hear a Mother was harassing my daughter about not inviting her daughter to her Birthday party. I guess it was started the following day. Then it escalated into leaving her mean comments on her message board on her computer. Then she was talking to my daughters friends about how horrible is and she is a B*tch for not inviting her daughter. I was taking a bath and my daughter came running to the bathroom crying for me to come to her room. She showed me her computer screen and I was SHOCKED to what I read. It was a nasty mean message to my daughter. Telling her she is a snotty B*tch and she is obviously not a TRUE friend to her daughter other wise she would of been invited. it went on and on about nonsense. she just would not let up. I wish I kept it to show you what she wrote. I felt my claws coming out and I was so angry at this Mother for this. I wanted so bad to write back and put her in her place. but being an Adult I didn't ( even though I really wanted to) Once I talked to my daughter about this she told me who's mother it was. I was not surprised when she told me who it was. She was a few years behind me in High school. I am not even sure if she completed High School to be honest. she was one of those Mother you would see down town at midnight pushing a baby stroller. I recall a night I went to my Boyfriends ( my now husband) house and she was there trying to " ROMANCE" his room mate...( Excuse me while I gag!) anyway this woman really has no life at all. She just moved out of her boyfriends house and now lives in a run down apt. She is a nurse and works the night sift and leaves her 2 little ones 12 &10 home alone all night while she works. My daughter was just telling me that she was yelling at a Boy at a Soccer Game because he wouldn't kiss her daughter. ( HUH? why would a mother encourage this type of behavior at such a young age?) I guess she also brings her daughter out to dance Clubs with her on weekends to go Guy Shopping together? Good Grief what is this Woman doing to her children? She must of forgotten she is a Parent not a Best friend. I often see her at stores and around town...I am not sure how I will react when I will see her. I may just ignore her or maybe I will mention the party issue to her like adults. This is not something I expected from a friends parent. I always tell my daughter. "If you wont say it to your friends face. you should never write it for your friend to read". I doubt this Mother would have the guts to say this to my daughters face. Maybe she should think before she writes! also my daughter told me that she said a few explicit things to and around my daughter? what is up with that? what kind of example is she setting with this horrible behavior? I am so happy that my daughter can and does come to me when things are not right or needs a motherly advice... Anyway...Needless to say...My daughter WILL NOT go over there...if her friend wants to come here that is fine at least I Know what they are doing and that they are being taken care of. Some people have no freaking clue!
Being a parent is not always Fun and games.

Got to LOVE Family!

Okay now this is my time to spill over! Where do I start? We rent a cute apartment to a family member above our garage. She is in her 50's and acts like she is 20. She lives alone, no husband, her children are grown and have families of their own. She never pays her rent on time or if she does it is never the full amount. She always Bitches about never having any money. The next day she goes shopping for Shoes and clothes. always is ordering clothes on line, Then a few days go by and she cried the no Money song to me. There was a day not that long ago we had to borrow money from my MIL because we were tight our mortgage was a little late so we borrowed like $500.00 to make sure it was covered. ( we tried to pay it back but the In-laws said not to worry about it) I guess she found out about us having to borrow money and she came over and said.

*Tenant said- " It must really suck having to go borrow money to pay for your Bills?" ( as she throws bags of new clothes she bought that day to show me)

*I said- WHAT? you are telling me that it must suck having to borrow money?

I regained my composure and said " well if you paid your rent we wouldn't have to go and borrow Money!" You want to know what sucks? having to chase you for the damn rent! If you paid your rent we wouldn't have to go and borrow money! Then she has the Guts to tell me that I spend way to much money and I need to stop.
*Tenant said- You should do what I do. I look at whatever I think I want to buy and I ask myself, Do I need it or do I want it? if I want it I just walk away and not buy it.

*I said- ya right, I look down at the table and said so, Did you really need more clothes?
she stuffed all the clothes back in the bags and left.
I was so pissed. The next day I came home and ask DH if she paid the rent , DH said you are going to be so pissed.
ME-Why?

DH-She said...

ME- Said what?

DH- She said that you are taking advantage of MOM, saying you always go to her for money.

ME-Push open the door and run to the apartment pound on her door and Let her have it.
I can't even remember what I said to her. I was so pissed at her. All I remember yelling and not letting her have one work in, I got it off my chest told her what I felt about her and how rude it was for her to say I take advantage of my MIL. I held it in and didn't shed a tear until I got back into my own home.
She is such a Bitch to everyone she can never keep any friends, they all find out down the road she is a wench and stay away from her.
She as a different man here over night sometimes 3 nights a week. Ya this is something I really don't want my kids exposed to. My oldest DD has noticed and has mentioned it to me. She always goes away for weekends with different men. ( again there goes my rent Money that weekend!) when she got home she couldn't pay her rent because she went away.
she just bought a new car ( again there goes my rent money ) She couldn't pay it then because she needed a down payment. A month later she needed to register her car. ( I didn't get it then either? well I did just not all of it.) So here we are tonight...
*DH -Do you have the rent? ( it was due today) you see we have to play the chasing game to get it)
*Tenant-Um ahhh, maybe? you see I am going to Florida tomorrow for a week. I am leaving first thing in the Am and I have a check but I think it is going to bounce. I am in the negative in my account.
*DH- um ok? so will you have it when you get back?
*Tenant- ya I should
* Okay
* Tenant- could you have DD come and feed my cat for me while I am gone?
* DH- ya.. or I can
*Tenant- I will leave $10.oo on the counter for DD if she does.
Huh? at least she can pay someone something! Where the HELL is she getting the Money to go to Florida with? DUH! ? That's right OUR FRIGGEN RENT MONEY!
I am Hoping she will come back saying she had so much fun and she is moving there.

I used to get along so well with her. Then when we decided to fix up an apartment we mentioned renting it to her . Family members warned us and said No not to do it. you will never get your Money and she is a Bitch. I was blind I never saw it. She always was nice to me and I didn't think she would take advantage of us. ( WRONG) it went all down hill when she quit her job in hopes of getting a position where I work. When she found out I was in the position she wanted she became nasty towards me. I have heard from others she doesn't talk all the nice about me and it always go back to her wanting my job as a Bookkeeper for a buisness I work for. so all this cattiness from her is nothing but jealousy. I have what she wants. a Husband, financially comfortable, I own a home and a job she wants.
she is divorced twice, rents an apartment. filed bankruptcy, she looks down at me for being what she wants for herself.
So now that all this happened I told DH he needed to be harder on her. Not to be so friggin nice. let her know you are Pissed and we want our Rent money. we have bills to pay too. Why should we have to worry about what bills can be paid while she is going on vacation not having a worry about anything. We are the ones that own this property, we are the ones who have to pay taxes, we are the ones who have to make sure we have enough fuel for heat and hot water. she just assumes this just pays for its self! also she uses our grill ( which I don't mind) but clean the thing when you are done! I don't want to have to open the grill to find her leftover meat stuck to the grill! also Don't invite your friends to hang out on our deck and use the pool and tell my kids not to splash! Hello? I don;t think so! This is OUR pool We bought it. You rent from us and you can use it but don't invite all your snotty ass friends over for a Pool party and get off telling my kids to not bother them? WOW! Her Friends don't come over anymore after that day!
so here I am -$460.00. I hope she buys me something special from Florida!
Oh here is the best part.
She just got a Laptop ( ya my rent money bought that too) and she asked if she could run off of my wireless modem. I said sure we will just add $15.00 toward your rent to cover the cost.( if she was descent to me and paid her rent on time I would of never charged her extra for the wireless. But I felt I needed to. so hehehe when she doesn't pay the rent when I leave or am not using my laptop I turn off the modem so there is no wireless signal. She has called me a few times when I did this.

*Tenant-can you get online?

*Me- Yep, I am on right now ( LOL)

*Tenant- Huh that's strange I was just in and all of a sudden it shut down? I can't connect?

*Me-Hum? Not sure. I know I am on. maybe you need to make sure your wireless button is enabled?

*Tenant- Ya its on.

*Me- not sure. ( thinking to myself there you go Bitch! you can't pay your rent you can't use the Internet am paying for!

I can go on and on with her. From nasty messages she leaves on my cell to being rude to my DD's I have a feeling I will vent alot about her. Wait maybe not! maybe she will stay down in Florida!
DH said if she doesn't pay her rent before she leaves she is going to come back to find we changed the locks! LOL

Is My life really that Borning?

Sersiously? I know there has got to be something I need to get off my chest! Don't give up on me folks!
When I started this blog I had 101 thing to vent about. Now that time has gone by I am over it and have moved on. Keep cheking in. One of these days I will have something to talk about!